tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post8853811115888264145..comments2024-03-19T14:28:53.424+08:00Comments on QiuQiu: Why won't you love me back?QiuQiuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03381989000606047007noreply@blogger.comBlogger88125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-1495415849474590532016-12-08T12:49:19.328+08:002016-12-08T12:49:19.328+08:00I have the same experience too! But I have high ho...I have the same experience too! But I have high hopes and tried <a href="http://www.aptaadvantage.com.sg/" rel="nofollow">baby milk formula</a> during those times when I can't breastfeed.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16552708515029954831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-62423585898841433732015-09-02T01:53:10.152+08:002015-09-02T01:53:10.152+08:00Hi. I also have the same problem as you. I have sh...Hi. I also have the same problem as you. I have short nipple. And i think I also have short supply of milk earlier on.<br />For the first month, I suffer a lot too. Nipple sore, nipple blister, nipple bled, engorged boobs, fever. I almost give up too. But I didn't. That period I really felt like dying. I was so stressed up, no appetite to eat. Felt my boobs so heavy. During the first month, my baby was half breastfeeding and half foumual milk. Because it was too pain for my baby to latch. I pump out into bottle for him to drink.<br />I know is too late to tell you this. But maybe you can try for your next baby. :)<br />You can try massaging your boobs. Everytime after I massage my boobs, I feel better. And apply nipple cream during your pregnancy. Keep pumping. Because maybe at first, your pores are not fully open yet. So some of the milk might still stuck in your boobs. Thats why you felt so terrible. Keep pumping. I hope it helps! 妈妈最伟大!CIYUE!https://www.blogger.com/profile/03623725091171481580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-4190110354492741582015-09-02T01:49:21.762+08:002015-09-02T01:49:21.762+08:00Hi. I also have the same problem as you. I have sh...Hi. I also have the same problem as you. I have short nipple. And i think I also have short supply of milk earlier on.<br />For the first month, I suffer a lot too. Nipple sore, nipple blister, nipple bled, engorged boobs, fever. I almost give up too. But I didn't. That period I really felt like dying. I was so stressed up, no appetite to eat. Felt my boobs so heavy. During the first month, my baby was half breastfeeding and half foumual milk. Because it was too pain for my baby to latch. I pump out into bottle for him to drink.<br />I know is too late to tell you this. But maybe you can try for your next baby. :)<br />You can try massaging your boobs. Everytime after I massage my boobs, I feel better. And apply nipple cream during your pregnancy. Keep pumping. Because maybe at first, your pores are not fully open yet. So some of the milk might still stuck in your boobs. Thats why you felt so terrible. Keep pumping. I hope it helps! 妈妈最伟大!CIYUE!https://www.blogger.com/profile/03623725091171481580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-46391674304938826282015-04-15T23:20:48.745+08:002015-04-15T23:20:48.745+08:00Qiuqiu you have already done your best... don'...Qiuqiu you have already done your best... don't worry your baby will understand... being a mother not only about breastfeeding.. nowadays formula milk is also good for baby too... baby health and growth is the most important thing.. My PD was Dr Han too,he is a very patient doctor and no matter what thing you don't understand he will explain to you...<br /><br />Cheers<br />Doreen (mummy of 3mth old baby)<br /><br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-49167692941304877292015-04-12T11:48:57.465+08:002015-04-12T11:48:57.465+08:00Hi, I do not know you. Happen to read your blog. Y...Hi, I do not know you. Happen to read your blog. You are one courageous mother who did your best in everything that you could. You have spent time and effort in bf. Nevermind that it did not work out. You have at least tried.<br /><br />More importantly, a happy mum= a happy husband and a happy baby.<br /><br />Would love to see the happy mummy again.<br /><br />Cheers,<br />Sophia Lim (mummy of a 9 mth old)Miss Lim MJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14829795632412851945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-70535927481205834932015-04-12T11:17:41.154+08:002015-04-12T11:17:41.154+08:00Hi, I do not know you. Happen to read your blog. Y...Hi, I do not know you. Happen to read your blog. You are one courageous mother who did your best in everything that you could. You have spent time and effort in bf. Nevermind that it did not work out. You have at least tried.<br /><br />More importantly, a happy mum= a happy husband and a happy baby.<br /><br />Would love to see the happy mummy again.<br /><br />Cheers,<br />Sophia Lim (mummy of a 9 mth old)Miss Lim MJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14829795632412851945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-56250199472984684112015-04-09T18:53:59.302+08:002015-04-09T18:53:59.302+08:00Hi gal, I chanced upon your blog.. Don't worr...Hi gal, I chanced upon your blog.. Don't worry about stopping breastfeeding. I'm a mother myself and I know how tough it is to breastfeed. I too, has short nipples and my baby had nursing strikes with me at every feed. I then gave in to formula which it made me happier and made my baby happier. The most important thing is, you have to be a happy mother in order to nurture a happy baby. So don't worry, most of us grew up without taking breastmilk and we are all healthy and happy. Do what you deem is the most appropriate for yourself and your baby. Don't let others judge or rule our life. :) Keep calm & enjoy motherhood. Cheers!Mommy CKnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-59929803122057200742015-04-09T18:53:30.151+08:002015-04-09T18:53:30.151+08:00Hi gal, I chanced upon your blog.. Don't worr...Hi gal, I chanced upon your blog.. Don't worry about stopping breastfeeding. I'm a mother myself and I know how tough it is to breastfeed. I too, has short nipples and my baby had nursing strikes with me at every feed. I then gave in to formula which it made me happier and made my baby happier. The most important thing is, you have to be a happy mother in order to nurture a happy baby. So don't worry, most of us grew up without taking breastmilk and we are all healthy and happy. Do what you deem is the most appropriate for yourself and your baby. Don't let others judge or rule our life. :) Keep calm & enjoy motherhood. Cheers!Mommy CKnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-23205114378157613062015-04-09T18:52:53.444+08:002015-04-09T18:52:53.444+08:00Hi gal, I chanced upon your blog.. Don't worr...Hi gal, I chanced upon your blog.. Don't worry about stopping breastfeeding. I'm a mother myself and I know how tough it is to breastfeed. I too, has short nipples and my baby had nursing strikes with me at every feed. I then gave in to formula which it made me happier and made my baby happier. The most important thing is, you have to be a happy mother in order to nurture a happy baby. So don't worry, most of us grew up without taking breastmilk and we are all healthy and happy. Do what you deem is the most appropriate for yourself and your baby. Don't let others judge or rule our life. :) Keep calm & enjoy motherhood. Cheers!Mommy CKnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-63609964260574401612015-04-09T18:32:46.432+08:002015-04-09T18:32:46.432+08:00Hai, don't get upset..have you try some supple...Hai, don't get upset..have you try some supplements that can increase the production of breast milk? I have tried some pretty effective product that helps increase my breast milk supply. you can try if you're interested. because in the beginning I was also difficult to breastfedding. you can try this Traditional Medicinals Organic Mother's Milk ,fenugrek, moringa powder, calcium,placenta+vit b12 from doctor's prescription and Be sure to drink a lot of liquids. I know we hear this all the time but it really does makes a difference. Shoot for at least 12 – 8 oz. glasses a day or drink to thirst. For nutrition, many moms have boosted supply by eating galactagogues like oatmeal, barley, millet and quinoa as well as spices like fennel, ginger and turmeric. Brewer’s yeast, flaxseed, almonds, and sesame seeds can boost your supply. i hope it can help you to get more supply for your breast milk.ferdyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14094558119975305669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-4228913479545025382015-04-09T12:00:08.622+08:002015-04-09T12:00:08.622+08:00Don't feel guilty. The fact that you even trie...Don't feel guilty. The fact that you even tried makes all the difference. <br />You should check out this blog post from a mom here in the US. It's SUPER long but explains the problems she had with breastfeeding. It's a really good read. <br /><br />http://melissabeck.tumblr.com/post/61678235171/i-didnt-want-to-go-with-the-middle-name-ilaniAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-17344202702730246222015-04-07T16:12:45.066+08:002015-04-07T16:12:45.066+08:00Motherhood is not just about breastfeeding. No bre...Motherhood is not just about breastfeeding. No breast feed for your baby doesn't mean your baby is unhealthy. The important thing to ensure your baby is full with milk and get the nutrition. My baby girl get breastfeed last for 2-3 weeks because I have a hard time to produce breast milk. For other people commenting breastfeed is good, shouldn't give up, why don't give your baby latching, why use pump and etc. You can produce oversupply milk doesn't mean other mother can. You can let your baby latch all day long but not for working mom, that's why we use pump.<br />Another hygiene issue is please do not take whatever donator breastmilk. You won't know the donator habit lifestyle whether she smoke ? drink alcohol? FOR GOD SAKE, DON'T RISK YOUR BABY JUST TO GET BREASTMILK. Come on what's wrong with the formula milk ?!!<br />The stressful about breastfeeding issue same goes with natural birth. Natural birth sure better and less risk taking than C section, why lots of people still go for C sec option ?<br />Medical issue ? Afraid of birth pain ? Will you go blame the mother is selfish for not giving natural birth ? <br />Qiu, just don't feel guilt. Do what you want, other than breastfeeding, still got others thing to make you become a good mother.Jessienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-39242446969490840292015-04-07T10:08:32.908+08:002015-04-07T10:08:32.908+08:00No big deal, Qiu!!! My mom only bf me for 3 days a...No big deal, Qiu!!! My mom only bf me for 3 days and she gave up. I never blame her for it and I think I grew up fine anyway. It's just liquid food. No biggie. Smile!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-935669229863179062015-04-07T10:04:50.048+08:002015-04-07T10:04:50.048+08:00Hi Qiu qiu, im a mummy too and I totally understan...Hi Qiu qiu, im a mummy too and I totally understand what you are going through as I have all the same experience as you before and have been exclusively pluming for a total of 4 months and is really hell through out the 4 months, and I dun even enjoy it. In deed some people who have no problem in breastfeeding might be a stress to you and make you feel bad of not being able to breastfeed but actually is really alright being happy is the most important if you are unhappy your baby can feel you too. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-16470738396852024522015-04-07T03:04:59.956+08:002015-04-07T03:04:59.956+08:00I gave birth a little earlier than you did and I w...I gave birth a little earlier than you did and I went thru the same hell as u plus my baby had jaundice and had to be hospitalized for 4days. I get no rest from confinement and I was very sad cause baby latch on one side while rejects the other cause of short/inverted nipple. The latched nipple cracked due to prolonged use. Day 2 after birth, both my breasts were rock hard, no joke. Really like rock! The nurse in hospital massage my boob "gua sha" way and I thought I might die from the pain. Then coupled with the travelling I need to do cause I gave birth in one city and had to do confinement in another city (in Malaysia). Almost breakdown dy. Then maybe cause I pump hard(despite low production) so the short nipple lengthened. Not a beautiful sight but miraculously my baby manages to latch on it on week 5. Anyway, there is no sorry in stopping bf. Like u say, baby's happiness is most important and it is so linked to mommy's happiness. Do whatever that makes you happy. On a side note, this is my first baby so I'm as paranoid, if not more, than you are. Once I rushed to the ER cause I tot my baby had laboured breathing (thanks to google) and all I got was nothing and many stares from medical staffs who thought I'm crazy.yityiengnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-20627152705374430062015-04-07T01:47:30.372+08:002015-04-07T01:47:30.372+08:00maybe this wouldn't have happened if you didn&...maybe this wouldn't have happened if you didn't get a boob job last time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-51542252369924696182015-04-07T00:38:53.847+08:002015-04-07T00:38:53.847+08:00Hi qiu, my first time commenting here. I just feel...Hi qiu, my first time commenting here. I just feel you..my baby is 4 months old now. I took pills to stop milk supply after one month of pumping too. N right after I felt so guilty..and i regretted so much. I cried alot back then too..But my baby is still healthy and chubby now that he is on formula. Dont be sad. Bcos you definitely will have more time for your baby when you dont have to pump anymore. Think on the bright side. Jia you!!! :)jomelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00288099338959775995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-23115122592171731182015-04-07T00:16:31.563+08:002015-04-07T00:16:31.563+08:00Hi Girl, don't be upset over it.. I've bee...Hi Girl, don't be upset over it.. I've been there and I hated those people who tried to guilt-trip me about not breastfeed and lecture me with the thousands and one benefits of breastfeeding.. My son is growing well now and I don't see those breastfed babies doing extremely better than my son.. So I SAID F* U to those ppl who tried to sound so righteous.. U did well girl, don't get affected about being able to provide it for Meredith.. What's important is that u enjoy the growing process.. Be happy! JIA YOU! Anyway, CONGRATS :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-76081539312773017692015-04-06T17:27:34.866+08:002015-04-06T17:27:34.866+08:00Hey, this is my 1st time commenting. And i decided...Hey, this is my 1st time commenting. And i decided to do it because I feel so much for you. As a mom myself, I can totally understand how you felt. Many times I want to give up BF coz of the soreness and pain, I cried alot during that time too. Keep having thoughts of giving up. Those engorgement pain are just too bad to me to handle. <br /><br />I think you are doing great. Giving the best that you can to Baby. BM or FM, it doesnt matter. Baby still gets to drink and her needs are still met. You still get to do other mommies duties. Remember, giving BM is NOT the only mommy duty you have. THe list is very very long! <br /><br />Jia you! I think you will make a great mom to Baby. Cheers!Myonlyownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12114241216554236030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-11837418313277654012015-04-06T16:56:43.207+08:002015-04-06T16:56:43.207+08:00*patz* Bfeeding is surprisingly so much harder tha...*patz* Bfeeding is surprisingly so much harder than expected ya? I cried through my confinement too. <br /><br />Anyway, you tried really hard so give yourself a good pat at your back! Be happy! <br /><br />I have blinding migraine too. For me, it will come more often if I'm more stressed out and lack of sleep. So its kinda hard on the 1st few months of motherhood bcoz of the lack of sleep & dunno wats wrong bb crying omg session.<br /><br />So do relax and get some rest? Have to stay healthy and happy yo for Meredith!<br />lynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04614553124193042652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-35172629205908649912015-04-06T15:21:13.629+08:002015-04-06T15:21:13.629+08:00Don't be sad or guilty. Happy mummy make happy...Don't be sad or guilty. Happy mummy make happy baby. Think about you can spend more time with her and play with you. <br />Nothing wrong for not able to breastfeeding. My mum didn't breastfeed me and i still grown up well. Just enjoy the motherhood.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-82534589138566097462015-04-06T15:20:59.758+08:002015-04-06T15:20:59.758+08:00Hi Qiu Qiu. When my son was born in November 2013,...Hi Qiu Qiu. When my son was born in November 2013, i only managed to supply him BM for 3 weeks. He didnt want to latch since he was born. He kept crying when i tried. So i've to pump out the milk. But towards the end of 3 weeks i was running dry. I did all the things u mentioned and tried all the supplements recommended by my BFing friends. Still, it didnt work out. But, i didnt have sore breasts. The first few weeks after my supply stopped, i felt depressed. I hesitated to feed him FM but I didnt want him to die of hunger (more like i wanted him to stop crying and keeping us up all night LOL). I felt insecure feeding my baby in public cos i was so worried of what other moms would think of me bottle feeding my son. But some mothers I know (close or random) who BF their babies were being supportive, understood my problem and most importantly they didnt judge. It took quite a while for me to feel better. Then, i realized maybe BF is just not meant for me. I need to get out from the agony and start focusing on my son instead of spending time grieving on being failed at Bfing. It's not the end of the world. It takes time to heal. <br /><br />I have a healthy and active toddler now. He's a fast learner too. He seldom falls sick. When he sleeps he doesnt want to be tucked in under a blanket in an air-conditioned room. He’s a really tough baby. LOL<br /><br />Dont stress yourself too much on BFing issue ok. Things will get better and easier as they grow older by months. And please stop crying. In fact dont cry at all during confinement that's how u easily get the M. You could get anxiety disorder too. Just enjoy every single day u spend with your daughter and husband. Heal your inner body & rest.<br />Noranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-15023872031192596382015-04-06T13:18:22.641+08:002015-04-06T13:18:22.641+08:00Hey Qiuqiu, dont be disheartened. I am a 18 years ...Hey Qiuqiu, dont be disheartened. I am a 18 years old (turning 19), I am not breastfed by my mother and I am healthy and kicking. :-) I may not understand what you are feeling right now because I am not a mother myself yet, but it is okay I just want to leave you a comment that may seem very minute to you. I dont and wont blame my mother, I am sure your angel Meredith wouldn't. And yes, being a mother is more than just breastfeeding. Love you always, hang in there! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-51697789139439712142015-04-06T12:42:52.427+08:002015-04-06T12:42:52.427+08:00It's okay it's okay... A good mother is no...It's okay it's okay... A good mother is not only about breastfeeding. My mother never did that too because she was very scared of the pain, but to me she is still the best mom in the world! Don't think I will remember sucking her breast anyway haha. But I remember how she care for me for this 25 years!<br />Cheer up! I'm sure Meredith understands :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4229416211788352733.post-90532668494066436962015-04-06T11:06:14.070+08:002015-04-06T11:06:14.070+08:00Hello Qiu,
I've always been a silent reader bu...Hello Qiu,<br />I've always been a silent reader but now I just want to give you some encouragement. You've tried your best already - good job girl! It's definitely not easy breastfeeding, and doing so does not mean you're automatically a good mom. I have my own reasons for breastfeeding my 2 kids till they were 1.5 years old (formula milk is expensive while breastmilk is FOC, and my family has a history of girls being overweight - breastfeeding seems to help kids not to be overweight), so even though I had such a hard time struggling alone (as none of the mothers in my family breastfed), I die die also wanted to do it. My mom didn't breastfeed me, and I still grew up healthy and I didn't think she has loved me any less. So, no harm done!jgirlpghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03606273832868658098noreply@blogger.com