Today i try to ask myself if making people see it the way i see it is even necessary.
Today i saw a little commotion on my instagram. I posted a picture of myself yesterday. Say really not say very chio lah but i had makeup on so i also don't think it's ugly / scary like how my makeupless pictures can get hahahah. Eh i also got self-realisation skills one lolol.
The commotion was this girl (maybe 11 or 12 or 13 max?) commenting "She is the ugliest thing i've ever seen" and then some people reply to tell her off very mildly and she keep coming back to comment saying things like her pictures are at least better than "this crap" (my photo). Haha.
So i went to her profile to take a look. I'm like HOLLY MOLLY SIMIDAIJI?!
I laughed a bit cox it's really like.. Whaaaaat?
So i screenshot her pictures in thumbnail and post it on my instagram to relate what happened. I can't lie, saying i didn't expect people to bash her online. I EXPECT people to do just that becox i understand how human beings react when they see something like this. But this is what everyone should expect. Expect from the understanding of how things work..
I didn't expect them to bash her by asking nor by saying "Bash her cox she's rude" that's not what i would most love to have happening to her, but that's what she should have expected when she troll on someone ; That people CAN choose to get back at her.
That if you do something bad, be prepared to get a reaction. And be prepared on how to handle the reaction. That is not too hard a concept to grasp right. Some people call it karma.
Take for example, me putting up her picture, I expected that there will be people giving me moral lessons on what i'm doing is wrong too, "two wrong doesn't make a right" what i should have done is to ignore, what i should not have done is to get petty with a 12 year old "She's just a 12 yro! Geez! What is wrong with you?"
What is wrong with me?
What is wrong with the society! Taking pity on people who deserves none.
12 year old kill your mother you don't get mad ah.
12 year old eat your last piece of the yummiest brownie on earth you don't get mad ah.
12 year old use black marker scribble "SO UGLY" on a painting you worked on for 3 days, you don't get mad ah.
Every other day a 12 year old come throw an egg at you, you don't get mad ah!!!
Dare to tell me she's only 12 year old.
12 year old dua ki?!?!
I was 12 year old once! You were 12 year old once! Did you go around telling people "You're ugly" and when told to stop, you just keep doing it more?! Did you?!
12 year old leh. You can already understand the multiplication times table but you don't understand what is BASIC MANNERS MEH? Mai lai.
She's just being extremely annoying and nonchalant about hurting people's feeling lah!
And this would probably be how she's going to grow up being, if nobody shows her what is "Action ↔ Reaction"
I am just showing her what to expect if and when she do something bad to people. I can handle the reaction from what i do in hope to make her understand what she did was wrong. But she can or not? Cannot don't ever do something like that again, it's very simple.
Like i always believe, a good person, even after making a mistake, can come out of any ordeal or problems in their life, a better person. If the person is ill-natured then no matter what, things are not going to turn out well. So this can be a turning point for her if she takes it well lah! I didn't even charge her. And i have to go through people judging me for it. I say i deserve some credit. Lolol.
And then more irritating that there are people telling me "If you really want her to understand you should say it to her nicely, teach her what is right and wrong" Oh really.. Cox last time i checked i didn't give birth 12 years ago.
Then i think we can safely conclude that that would be..... Her mother's job.
I am sorry i can't be holding everyone's hands and telling them softly at their ears "Hey there sweetie pie, you are 12 year old you should be in school having the best time with your classmates and bestfriend, playing sports you like, do cheerleading if it makes you happy, chase a butterfly in the garden or kick a ball, or write in autograph books, play with instagram if that's what you enjoy but you can't be going to random people's pictures and leave them nasty comments okay? Becox people have feelings too. And if you make them angry they can do things back at you and you can't blame them for that cox you had a choice earlier and you choose to plant a bad seed"
YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN, i am one person and i don't have time to smooth-handle all the 12 year olds especially not when parents are giving phones with data to more and more kids of more and more younger age.
Heck, Baby Yurou is 1 year old 20 months and she has one iPhone and one iPad to herself. Thank god she only use them to play games like plucking beansprouts and making pancakes.
In short, do only good things. Or do mean things but don't get caught. Or do do mean things, get caught and be a better person. Just be good or shut up, is the best lah.