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I haven't felt as guilty as i did today since really long ago.

Got on a cab today cox i was in a rush and mainly cox i was carrying bulky and heavy stuff lah. I was heading for Josh's studio which is located in a industrial building and can drive through all the way to the 7th floor kind.

I hop on and told the taxi uncle the exact address of the building and then i told him that i wanna enter from the entrance, which is at another road name. He said okay.

But when we were reaching, he was heading for another side of the building. It's very complicated lah, the building is of this HUGE round design. SO if he drop me off at the wrong place, i can take the lift up the 7th floor yes, but i have to walk quite far to the lift, number one. Number two is when i get to the 7th floor, i still have to walk quite far to the unit.

Also not say it's unachievable but i hop onto a cab precisely cox i am carrying bulky heavy stuff and i wanna be dropped off right outside the unit lah!!! Since cars can drive-through anyway, right.

But yeah, as i was saying. He wanted to drop me off by the road side (this part of the building, the cars can't even drive to the lift) and ask me to walk into the building and take lift.

So i was like "Sorry uncle, this is not the entrance i told you. I told you to enter by XXXXX (roadname) right? Cox this side you heading for we can't drive in and up to the 7th floor"

He was like "7th floor?! You didn't say 7th floor what. Taxi cannot drive up one. You take lift from here lah" he sounded quite angry already lah and keep saying taxi cannot drive up the building. I had taxi drivers sending me up soooo many times already =/ So i am of course angry he thinks i am a fool like this?

So i explained to him i am carrying stuff and i will not alight at the wrong entrance. While he keep insisting that taxi cannot drive in and that i didn't tell him from the start that i want him to drive up to 7th floor.

And then we ping-pong the same argument over and over again. And he got so angry he kept shouting. I gave up and i say "OKAY FINE. You can drop me here but i will definitely write a letter to your company" I say that with so much evil thoughts like i wanna ruin his livelihood and get him into serious trouble and hopefully make him lose his job =X I am not proud of myself for this.

And then he kept going on and on and finally say "OKAY YOU WANT TO GO UP I DRIVE YOU! BUT......." Then he repeated like 4 times (in a much calmer tone) about how i should have been honest with him from the start, and he would have drove me up without the heated argument.

When he was explaining i already felt a bit guilty lah but STILL!! I am a bit wrong but he drop me at a different point from where i told him to, also wrong lah i feel. So we're quits.

And then when i reached my destination, he said sorry for being so worked up just now and i was passing him the money and so i FINALLY looked at him.

He was so old.

Grey wispy hair and super wrinkled face.

Thick lens spectacles. A little bit like Carl in UP the movie =(((

Omg just typing and remembering his face gives me goosebumps again. I feel soooo freaking bad about myself. Today whenever i think about his face, i feel like a monster.

When i am grabbing my stuff to get out he say "这样可以吗?" (like this can or not) I think he meant that since he already drove me up, and apologised, he hope i won't write a letter to his company =((

I said no problem and i say thank you and i got out of the cab feeling like the most horrible person on earth. I mean seriously, what was i thinking when i wanna do harm to someone's career, like i can.

Like who the fuck do i think i am, really.

I am sorry. I will try my hardest not to lose my temper on people so easily and never ever throw a threat to "write letters" to people over small issues. I am sorry, uncle.

And also, yesterday i ordered Mcdees for 4 person and i asked for 10 packs of chili, 10 ketchup.

Two BBQ sauce and TWO curry sauce.

Just cox we each have a meal and then we also have 20pc nuggets to share.

When we started eating, we realise the 10 ketchup were missing. So i was telling Josh "How the hell they can give me 8 chilli when i ask for 10, and then not give me the 10 ketchup?! How can they miss it out?! My god i cannot understand stupid people"

I mean it's not even like the operator tell me it's not possible to give me the amount i want. She said it was okay and she even confirmed it at the end of the order. So it must have been a very blur packer who packed my food, right?

So after much annoyance i was like "Ah nevermind lah"

And then when we wanna eat the nuggets, i realise there's no curry sauce.

I WAS LIKE "OMG OMG OMG. I CANNOT. I CANNOT TAKE THIS SHIT"

So i picked up the phone, call Mcdee again and i was all in a bitch-fit.

Just imagine. Really. I was going on and on and on about how they gave me only 8 chili instead of 10, and never gave me my 10 ketchup and 2 curry sauce and that i cannot believe it.

Seriously, the yesterday me, need to get so worked up or not!!!

So anyway. They send another rider to pass me my sauce.

I was already done with the meal. What does it say?

It says i can actually do without the sauce.

But i chose to be difficult to people.

And this is horrible. I will try my hardest not to do it again. Unless that person is on my hitlist. Lol.

New resolution for 2012 - Be nicer to stranger.

61 comments:

MeowMeow Qian said...

pms perhaps ? :DD
I get irritated so easily before my period comes :S

Anonymous said...

You are so honest with yourself

Anonymous said...

You are so honest with yourself

Saya lii said...

Qui it's okay =/, experiences like this happen to me too and they make me feel terrible.

But even though it could have been handelled better, you still reflected on it and learnt from the experience and that is why I'm proud of you :).

It may not have been the ideal way to react at the time but I am happy you got something out of it and learnt from it.

Keep smiling <3 You are not a bad person. <3

Anonymous said...

I think it's commendable how you reflected over what you did :) tbh I also felt that you overreacted but what matters most is you knew what you did wrong :DD

Anonymous said...

-applause- :) thanks for this post. I think you've made up for it by reminding your readers that we can all be better people. But actually you weren't that unreasonable about the taxi incident. I've met more unreasonable people!!

Anonymous said...

you are indeed a very kind and natural girl.

FiSh. ohFISHiee said...

omg..was it very hectic during the day? :( Don't feel sorry, just be sure not to make the same mistake in future :))

Xoxo,
ohfishiee

Anonymous said...

Hello Qiuqiu (: One of the things I like most about your blog is how straightforward you are, and how you're not afraid to be frank, not like some other bloggers who try to put up a false front all the time. So in retrospect, while that may not have been the right thing to do, I think a lot of readers like that you're aware of it yourself and do feel remorse for your actions! I hope you don't feel too bad about it, we all make mistakes <3 It was a good post and I'm going to try to be nicer to strangers next time too! <3 Keep being awesome! :D

Anonymous said...

You will go far girl. :)

Anonymous said...

You will go far Girl :)

Anonymous said...

you have an amazing kind heart. you will be a better person :-)

Kah Ying said...

i know that feeling...
really really guilty and disappointed in ourselves that we hope we could time travel back and not do that...
feel like i'd cry and apologize to them only if it wouldnt freak people out. feel the need to do something to make that up, to make them feel better, to make myself feel better...

i always read your blog but never commented,
today, reading this post, i feel like typing something... i could totally feel it, i nearly teared when you mentioned how the uncle looks like... i experienced the exactly same thing before, in fact i believe many people have, too. like how i was angry with my dad over something - either small or big (long time ago, or occasionally) but when you look at their wrinkly face you'd immediately get that whatever they do wrong, it does not matter anymore... oh dear i suddenly miss my dad and mom. (cuz im studying oversea)

but well, take it as an experience and lesson, always remember this and do not repeat it again. it's nice that you're being so honest to all of us and yourself, and actually feel sorry about it. (some people dont feel sorry about that)

xx

Ping Ping said...

I've always been the one who'll say "Just let it be, don't find fault" Cause that's how my family raised us. But my boyfriend is a total opposite. I know how you feel when you see the old man. Just reading your description of him makes my heart ache. I have this soft spot for old people and you can't trust me to meet an old person selling something (except if it's lottery or something really pricey) and I don't buy from them. Good thing is that you've learn from it. Instead of being obnoxious and say "I am the customer, I am right what?" at least you felt bad and it's a good start!!! Love reading your blog cause you are really kind hearted and nice.

Amanda said...

Well, what can I say...
A bitch, that's you. Period.

It bewilders me why people comes up with excuses to justify your actions.

Block my comment for all you want. I've made my point. It only shows how shallow you are for having the courage to post an blog post but not accepting criticism.

Hongi said...

We all have those kinds of experiences, taxi drivers can be particularly difficult sometimes. Don't feel bad about it, just be glad that you learned something from it because there really was fault on both of your parts (I think it was mainly the cabbie though, but I guess he was just confused). Whenever I meet difficult people I just remind myself that they could be going through a rough patch in their life and may be taking it out on other people, which isn't right but it's understandable > <.

Anonymous said...

Hi Qiuqiu,

When I read the part about the taxi uncle, I felt sad for the uncle cos he was so worried about his livelihood, that he has to di shen xia qi to his customer. Then when I read about Kah Ying's part about our old parents, I started crying! I don't know why I so emo over this.

Maybe cos just today I took a cab, I forgot my wallet so I asked the uncle to turn back to my house and wait for me downstairs. When I returned very shortly, I saw him looking at a flattened bread. He said he bought it a few days ago but he forgot to eat it. I guess he was looking at the bread and thinking whether to eat or not. So I told him, so many days already, don't eat already. He is a old uncle who even mistake left and right (cos whenever I say turn right, he will steer a bit to the left before he realise and steer back to right). When I alighted at the destination, it is $6.70. But he said $6 can already. But it's my fault I forgot my wallet and ask him to turn back, how can I pay lesser?! So I paid him $7 and said no need to give me change. He was so happy!

Thanks for reading my long story. Yes, there are times when we meet weird and rude service providers. But I just want to say, they are just trying to work and make a livelihood. So let's aim to be nicer to strangers, like what Qiuqiu said!

Qiuting said...

Saya, thank you. I have been telling myself in the showers, that all i can do now is to hope that something REALLY good will happen to the uncle.

Kah Ying, when i was younger as a teenager i also feel the same about my dad and my mum even. Hope you get to visit your parents really soon!

Anon, my god that uncle sure sound like a very nice uncle.

Anonymous said...

:'( this post entry makes me wanna cry...sometimes we just get that negative thoughts in our mind.. and after we calm down.. we realise it isnt that BIG issue anymore..aw!! you're such a kind person.Though i think abt the sauce part, its kinda funny! i feel that too. i mean why cant people just do their job right once and for all.grr! waste the money and trouble.

Olga Podobed said...

Oh, almost made me cry also!
That's a good thing that you are reflecting upon what had happened I think. Such things happen a lot. Just like something comes over us and we are not ourselves anymore and then have regrets. And it even can be not a stranger but smb dear! Hate this!
You've made the right conclusion and resolution out of this! But you know, you must put a lot of effort to avoid such brake outs! So, I wish you good luck with all my heart!

The other day I was passing the park-forest near our home (lol) and met a nice woman stranger with a goats herd. She was breathing hard from running and laughing. Told me she was just chasing two goats. I asked why her little dog did'n help, it was such funny small puppy. And we both laughed. SO... what's that about? you ask :)
I felt so warm and happy then! That's how we people can make each other! so easy and heartwarming! I appreciate that moment! Want to share with you :)

Anonymous said...

Qiu, your style are kinda typical Singaporean style. The "complain" style. But I am glad that you are guilty for it. And perhaps it can also be advise to all Singaporean they should change their attitude right. Cheer. I would think after your blog post not only you, but all your readers might change their attitude too. :D

Anonymous said...

you know what you can do for the uncle? WRITE HIM A COMPLIMENT LETTER LA. -.- i bet he will be very grateful to you.

Hanna Lei said...

At least you realized that you were wrong. http://www.hannamarielei.com/

Amy C said...

Hello Qiuqiu! No need to feel so guilty dear. Whenever temper rises, we became hot headed over reasons. It's common. We are humans. Im one of them too. Haha.

Stay cheerful always & more blog posts! Enjoy reading them. :)

Ja said...

I really admire you, Qiuting!
The first step to change is to actually admit what you are wrong about.
So good luck to you! <3

Anonymous said...

sick...

Anonymous said...

sick...

Anonymous said...

omg qiu qiu i felt guilty by just reading your post. and i can literally feel what you feel. bcos i always think we're the same kind of person. if i were you i will write a letter to compliment the uncle instead :) for apologize and send you to your destination in the end. thanks for writing this post, now i have something to remind me not to be impetuous in any kind of situation. thank you qiu qiu u're great <3

Anonymous said...

很多时候我们会在气头上说错话,做错事。但到最后我们都会为自己的所作所为而感到懊恼,后悔。懂得检讨及反思自己的行为,证明你是个善良的人。加油!

JY Mizuko said...

Maybe you could write in for the taxi uncle to thank him instead. I tink he needs his ricebowl too. Sometimes i also feel guilty liddat. Qiuqiu, you're not alone =)

Anonymous said...

*thumbs UP*

Anonymous said...

omg i know how u feel when like get damn angry for small things like this! but sometimes cannot control lor! GRAAARRRR

jenn said...

i still don't know why you're famous... you're not that pretty, you're not very talented in anything and now i know your character is... this. Seriously? i can't believe such a person like you exists. disgusting. why the heck do people say you're kind hearted?! someone enlighten me, i am bloody confused. there is a fine line between honesty, and being a bitch.

Lena_Marie said...

In my country (Norway) nobody complain about anything and sellers that are supposed to be service minded can be assholes and almost no one puts them in their place. You should never feel bad about saying that you are not happy with something cause obviously someone didn't do their job right at the mcdees, but it's the way people say it.
I work part time in a flower shop I and never feel bad if people come to me with complaints about something when their complaints are reasonable. But they can either start yelling, which is a very uncomfy situation, or they can talk about the issue politely. The thing is that most of the time when you have a complaint your not talking to the person which is responsible and I've had customers yelling and scolding me for something I have/had no control over.
Main point is :) just kindly and calmly let them know what is wrong and let them try and fix it.

Anonymous said...

Yes qiu qiu please write a compliment letter!

Angie said...

Well, at least u apologised ^^

Angie said...

Trust me, you'll be a better person in future <3

Kelsey Yates said...

realizing you have this problem is the first step. it shoes that you care that you feel guilty. you can do it -- i know you're a nice person, qiuqiu :)

Anonymous said...

@jenn
since you can qiu qui isn't that pretty , then perhaps you might be of the same calibre as Victoria secret models
Which I think you are not , you're probably just someone who is jealous of qiu qiu

How can you also say qiu qiu is not kind hearted just by reading this post? That means if you accidentally drop something on the floor , then others can say that your inconsiderate . Judging from what you posted , I can tell that your character isn't any better. At least qiu qiu apologizes , you ? I don't think you have enough courage to do that

Please be mindful of your words next time

Colleen said...

I think I rmb my friends who worked at one of mcdee's call centre before said that they have a blacklisting system to warn the next staff who gets this customer's call/order. LOL

Evelyn Neo said...

qiu qiu, tbh, the macdee u have no wrong, because i encounter that too! nuggets with no sauce... fries with no chilli when i actually requested it, and shaker fries wo the seasoning... what is that right?? i think they really need to checked their order before handing it to customers...

Fiona Khoo said...

I felt a whole new respect for you. Yes, what you did with the cab driver or the mcdees may not be very nice, but how many people can find it in themselves to admit it? Standing ovation for you. Keep up the good attitude! :D

Anonymous said...

Thanks for sharing. I had a similar experience a few months back when a cabbie kept insisting that Raffles City (my destination) is at Raffles Place MRT and chided me when I told him to go to City Hall MRT like they were 2 different locations + he kept raising his voice like I was at fault when he was the one who didn't know the way. I emailed the company but they gave me only a patronising response. Now I'm wondering if I'm being too xiao3 xin1 yan3 by being angry. But I cannot tolerate the bad attitude!

The LILPINK said...

yep. Mcdees always do that. you order french fries, they give you no ketchup. i mean, fries and ketchup are like partners. they should not forget that. T_T anyway, this post makes me realize how bad i am sometimes to strangers. you're awesome!


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Anonymous said...

what a bitch.

Anonymous said...

An honest bitch wins sympathy at the end. Yes who do you think you are? People work for 3 meals not like you just snapping some cute pics and get a good life.

Anonymous said...

its either PMS or Wedding Jitters Qiu.. :-p

Anonymous said...

i like u.

Anonymous said...

YES please write him a compliment letter! Ouch it really pains me to think that this old uncle could have been somebody's doting grandfather...some uncles just sound vvvv rude when they talk, but sometimes that's just the way they are! Ok I'm sure you already know that. Don't feel guilty already! It will be really good to write him a compliment letter!

IamHfz said...

its not your fault qiu qiu.cheer up ^^

IamHfz said...

its not your fault qiuqiu.cheer up ^^

Anonymous said...

Hi Qiuqiu!

What a moving story. I am really impressed of your self-awareness and your abilities to admit an inapproiate behaviour. It just shows your greatness (I am just blunt) and your mature personality. As a German I worked in the service industry for some years as well and I can assure you that there are only very few customers who were ever able to apologize or gain insights if they were obviously wrong. Rather they prefered to insist on their viewpoint and would turn black to white. You see, it's the same all over the world. We should learn to reflect and rethink as everyone is sometimes wrong and everyone behaves occasionally inappropriate to someone else.

Your blogging style btw is so unique and stimulating, love it. Have a great week ahead!

Anonymous said...

Hi QiuQiu!

I'll admit that at first, I felt quite critical of you while reading this post...but after I had finished reading I felt very touched. I was moved that you openly admitted your errors and wish to improve yourself. We all have our moments, but I think that you're very brave to post this on your blog where people will probably judge for you this!

I haven't read such an honest and straight forward entry from a blogger in a long time, so I thank you for sharing this with us, and reminding us to be better people.

Oh and btw, I also think that you should write an apology letter to the taxi driver! It could make his day :P

Nana Chan said...

its a meaningful post.. I agree that you're very truthful to yourself which shows that you must be someone kind hearted.. All I can say is Jia You! It is important to be nice to people, and you will realize you're a much happier person by being nice! :)

ayumi tanaka said...

hi qiuqiu! thank you for that honest post! i enjoyed reading it and i hope next time you will reflect more instead of reacting quickly in anger. i have been in the same position a lot, but we need to remember to stop what we’re doing in life sometimes and count our blessings.

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle”- Plato

Anonymous said...

You have a kind heart.

Anonymous said...

Hope you'll write a compliment letter for the taxi driver QiuQiu! (:

Anonymous said...

hope u will be nice towards taxi uncles in future....

Joan Woo said...

I cried after reading this, especially when you said that the taxi uncle looks like Carl from UP :(

Anonymous said...

NOW YOU REALIZED HOW BIG HEADED YOU ARE!!

COME ON! YOU ARE A NOBODY AND YET CAN ACT LIKE THIS

I WAS TURNED OFF THE MOMENT YOU POST PHOTOS OF YOU ALL GLAMMED UP AND ASKING READERS TO COME AT YOU??

TO CRITICIZE YOU? COS YOU "CAN TAKE" IT??

HATE TO BREAK IT TO YOU BUT YOU ARE NOT PRETTY.. PHOTOSHOP DOES WONDERS ALRIGHT..

UGLY FACE UGLY ATTITUDE..!!

YEAH START REFLECTING NOW..MAYBE THERE'S STILL HOPE FOR YOU

Lidia said...

Hi QIU!

No worries about temper issues. We all have those days, but at least, you dared to admit that you were being hurtful to others in your words.

Take ownership of your own emotions, no matter how others treat you.. i am always telling myself that.. Jiayou